If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes

Whatever habit we need to change, if we don’t change it, nothing will change. We have to put in the work. Henry Van Dyke said, “As long as habit and routine dictate the pattern of living, new dimensions of the soul will not emerge.”

If we want to lose weight, we need to cut calories and increase activity. No shortcuts. Yes, it’s hard. The Babe and I started Keto in October, 2020. We’ve lost 25 pounds each, and we’re happy with that amount so far. To reach the end goal, however, we need to get back to the habits we changed and implement them once again. We had a great weekend with some splurges included, and are ready to get back to work again.

If I want to write and publish books, I need to enact some different habits as well. All things considered, I need to build in some time to let my back rest during the day, so I can work longer at the computer. It’s hard to work around a disability, but I have to figure something out. I have books inside of me that need to be published and shared.

We have to be ready to risk the comfort of old ways for the prospect of a new tomorrow. The new tomorrow can be having a healthier body and extended life. The new tomorrow can be contributing to the happiness of others by writing entertaining books. The new tomorrow can also be modifying any part of your life that causes you distress; such as an addiction or unhealthy habit.

Often, the addicted person thinks they are in control of their world. That thinking is always wrong; they are not in control, nothing could be further from the truth. They are under the control of their addiction. Denial is at it’s best when addiction, enabling, or justification is happening. If we don’t challenge those bad habits, justifications, or enablers, we’re stuck. We’ll never get beyond the discomfort in our lives. Our negative behaviors continue. We find no hope. We mope that we’re unhappy.

We don’t sense we need changes in life unless we get very uncomfortable. We go through the same old motions day after day. We can’t produce anything else. Until we decide to change. We need to commit to lose the weight, stop drinking or doing drugs, quit smoking, let your kids accept the consequences of their actions, learn something new, do something we’ve always wanted to do.

Change. It’s usually for the good. Whether we want to at first or not. It’s so worth it. Good things are ahead. You will find more folks like you. You never guessed there were so many. Reach out, you’ll find them. You can learn and grow together. Life has so much to offer. Making the most of it feels so much better than being stuck in a rut. There is life after addiction, after kids, after the job. What do you want to do for the next twenty years of your life? Change what you need to, keep what works. Your life will change for the better.

Thank you for reading tonight. The morning was full of doctor appointments for the Babe; he’s fine, they were just annual checks on the carotid artery surgery from two years ago. All is good. Sometimes it’s a little scary, and we’re nothing but grateful things are good. We will see each other earlier tomorrow. Be Safe out there!