Congratulations to my friends, Jimmy and Barbara Madden Weber. The photo of them, with officiant Ken Sitler, is at Johnny Cash’s farm in Tennessee. I’m just now seeing photos, as we were unable to attend. The Babe doesn’t travel well these days, and it’s ok. The photos folks are posting show a beautiful bride and groom, who I know value each other more than you can imagine. How? Why?
When we are young and marry, we marry for different reasons than when we’re older. When we’re older, we’ve experienced loss of a partner, either through death or divorce, and when we’re younger, it’s for different reasons. It’s supposed to be for life, and some of us don’t make it that far, for whatever reason.
Two people who have experienced love, loss, war, serving our country, and marrying others, children, and all the things couples endure have a different outlook than 25 year olds do. Beginnings and endings are very common in these times. It’s ok when things don’t work out; people change and we don’t need to know details. We all have them. As long as I’ve known Jimmy, he’s a gentleman with much to offer, and has just seemed a little sad, being alone.
And late last fall, when Jimmy sang at a function we attended, we talked a few minutes after I finally met Barbara. She is a stunning woman, a quintessential lady, who I feel is a very strong person on her own. She is charismatic and I think she’s just perfect for Jimmy. We had a little discussion and I knew he was pretty smitten with her. And I just felt the reverse was also true. It’s hard to have relationships when one person is a musician who travels a lot. But now, at this point in life, Barbara can travel with him. They will have many adventures together. And that’s a beautiful thing. It isn’t luck, it’s what they both deserve: happiness.
Jimmy loves big, I think. He loves him Mama, his country, his family, his friends, and now, first, is Barbara. I can see much happiness for them as they grow older together.
When you get past the ages where you marry to have children, establish careers, and live in the grown-up world, you marry for different reasons. Companionship is one of the most important reasons. I’ve wished for Jimmy the happiness the Babe and I have. Best friends, united as man and woman, husband and wife. Complete trust, one in the other. You can just see they have it.
They are both people who are grateful to God for putting them together. That is important. God knows what He’s doing here, for sure. They deserve the happiness they will continue to have. Is it all puppy dogs and rainbows? No, not at all. Sometimes, we’re not happy with each other. A lot of times, when you’re older, you learn what is worth arguing about and what isn’t. Most of it isn’t. By this age, we’ve arrived at feeling secure in ourselves, and we don’t need to be better due to ego. We can both be right and we can both be wrong. It just is’t worth cross words anymore. Be grateful and things change up right then. Sometimes, the thing that keeps my mouth shut is, “Someday, I’ll miss this.” And then I’m grateful, not angry anymore.
As they start their life together, I wish many more happy years for them. We’re up to 24 already in October, and kids, it goes so fast when you’re with the love of the rest of your life. Cherish each other for how special you both are. Cannot wait to hug you both and congratulate you in person.
Kathy & Dan