Givers v. Takers

There are countless memes on Facebook about givers and takers. So many of us experience hurt at the hands of takers. Our mistakes are not in the giving; the mistake is whom we choose to give to. Not everyone has the good intentions we do. Should we hide from human connection? To do so is to stunt our own growth. Yes, there is risk involved. To truly live, we must take risks. It does not mean life should be only in a safe zone, totally predictable.

We can learn to forgive instead of harbor resentment. Resentment harbors in the victim and harms him or her. The act of forgiveness releases the resentment and the victim. It has nothing to do with the wrongdoing or the person who caused the hurt. The act of forgiving is a conscious thing. You don’t have to trust them. It doesn’t mean you’ll be friends. It means you will be free of the resentment.

Freedom from the resentment changes your view of the world and the imperfect people in it. Your cynicism becomes trust. Trust can lead to love, and we all need more of that! Old hurts are best left in the past. Forgiving them leaves them there. Resentment is a thief of the heart. Grudges get heavy to carry around. They cloud your decision making. Doom and gloom reign. Who needs that? I do not understand staying stuck in the muck. When I was there, I was unhappy. It was draining and stifling. I did not want to be one of those mothers who was a martyr.

This side of forgiveness is so beautiful. It is a place many never get to live. The Babe lives here. I have learned to forgive. He’s encouraged me. He knows my hurt. God has been so good to me. I recognize when God is teaching me a lesson or telling me what he wants me to do.

Often it is about whom to ask questions of or who to talk with at a conference. It isn’t necessarily confined to spirituality, yet within many of the friendships I developed over the past couple of years, they are regarding writing, sharing stories to heal, and they are based in the spirituality. The credit always goes to God. God puts us in each other’s lives to fulfill purposes. We may not even realize it.

What I do realize is I must get back to slaying the beast that is the tax return for 2021. I am seeking medical and dental deductions at present, and won’t stop until I find some more. It will make a difference between paying and breaking even. Breaking even is quite attractive at this moment. Have a beautiful day. See you tomorrow!

#922 and Counting!

Can you believe this is blog #922? I am proud to celebrate three years with WordPress, and having a home for Kathy Raabe, Author. My electronic footprint, now well established, leaves me feeling enthused about whatever is ahead. Onward!

I ran out of time yesterday (again!), devoting time to the Income Tax return. Looks like I’ll learn something new there, too. The software is telling me something about one topic I’ve not seen before. More research is in order. Was hoping it would go easier. Another life lesson for me. This is the latest I’ve ever filed. I will not be recreating this form of tardiness!

Also, yesterday had all the hype of a terrible weather event brewing. The news and social media was all about it again all day long. So, we were at the ready to take the girls and adjourn to the basement. Never happened. Lexie hides in the master bedroom closet. Goldie sits by us and shakes. All good. Bad night’s sleep, but no tornadoes, large hail, or damaging wind. Color us happy after all the hype.

The temperature and humidity reminded me of a hot July day in Nebraska. Windows were open. The grit that blew in the windows remained on everything in the kitchen – the table, the countertops, the chairs. It covered every surface it met. Today will be a major cleanup. If you run your hand over the surfaces, you will feel the grit and see the dirt. It was crazy! I am ready for the winds to calm down forever. Yes, except for breezes. Breezes are good.

Grandma Babs is a 73-year-old woman who is now a TikTok goddess. She began two years ago, while living with her daughter during the pandemic. The daughter had two toddlers and was pregnant with the third child. It was her daughter’s suggestion she develop a persona on TikTok. Grandma balked at first. Then she tried it.

Grandma cooks and bakes, tells stories, and imparts a lot of wisdom with her demonstrations of all things wonderful in the kitchen. These are things our young people don’t learn. I watched my Grandma Jewell bake, cook, and all the things she did so well. Most people don’t live near their grandparents. I’ve thought about doing a podcast reading children’s books. Feedback? I’d love to know what you all think. Comment, please!

Today, I will resolve the problem of Income Taxes for 2021. I will file it, finished it, and forever banish it from my brain. Then on to the fun stuff. Getting ready for my kid book preview. It should happen early in May. I cannot wait to see what Jordan has dreamed up. She is a creative soul if I ever met one.

As I prepare to slay the dragon that is the IRS reporting, I feel confident by 1 p.m. I will slay the beast. Tuned in tomorrow for the next exciting installment! Have a beautiful day.