Divesting

There are a few different meanings for divesting. Today’a meaning is simply ridding oneself of something they no longer want/need, etc. Today, I am meeting with my replacement for the Website and social media for the VFW Post 2503. My friend, William Hackenberg has I/T talents and skills that blow me out of the water. It’s time to have a younger, more up to date skilled person. And, I need the time to go back to my interests, my quilting, and especially, my writing. It’s time. And we’re darned lucky to have him to take over.

The past eight years have been a roller coaster and real learning experience, but we hung in there. I’ve enjoyed interacting with all the members, friends, and visitors to the Post. I don’t plan to go anywhere, I’ll still do community outreach with the groups we’ve established relationships with, and will be visible. The big difference will be having more time to spend the way I want to, and having no guilt about being behind in postings, calendar updates, etc. It’ll take a few weeks to be fully divested, but I can feel the relief already.

With the eight losses of close friends in the past two years, I am looking very closely at how I spend my time, and what the results are. We should all do that every once in awhile. Taking stock and deciding how to spend your time is part of de-cluttering for sure. Our schedules need that just as much as our closets.

I am happiest creating things, and sometimes those things are with fabric, sometimes with words. I hope to add drawing to the mix, and painting. It never ends, I have a curiosity about many things, and hope to investigate all of them. So far, so good!

The whole point of spending your life wisely is to leave the world a little better for you being here. Leave every person you meet and love better off than when you met them. We all try to do that. I feel if we all concentrate on that very hard, we’ll be able to achieve some level of those goals. Let’s all try it in our circles of friendship, business, and partnerships. It certainly cannot hurt.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m pretty sad making this move. I liked knowing a little more about what was going on and helping communicate those things to the public, the members, and guests. My dad always said what’s in this header today. I’m giving something up that has taken eight years to build. Some of it feels like “my baby.” And at the same time, with a new, young, more talented I/T guy coming along, it’s time to step aside. It’s what we older folks are supposed to do. Many don’t. So, that’s what I’m doing later today.

What can you divest of that will give you more time to spend how you wish? Sometimes we don’t realize how much time we waste, until we don’t have a chance to change. Don’t let that happen. No one is on their deathbed and states, “I wish I would have spent more time working.” Don’t be that guy or gal. Free yourself up to enjoy something else. It’ll make a difference in your life!

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Second Step: Be Vigilant.

Yesterday, we talked about resisting the temptation to lollygag, not beginning our tasks or behavior changes. Once we decide to dig in and do something, we need to be aware, it can be human nature, in general, to let our new schedule, resolve, or whatever you want to call it, slide. “Just this once, it won’t hurt,” “No one will know,” “I deserve this.”

To the contrary; it will hurt, you will know, and you also deserve to have positive habits in your life. Do you want to get things done or let them go? It’s up to you. Your choice. No one else’s. Aren’t you better than that?

Compromising when you are just starting out just sets you up to fail. Keeping discipline for at least 21 days is the only way to begin changing a bad habit, changing policy in an organization for the better, or meeting a personal goal. That’s one reason why I blog every day. It’s important to write every day. It becomes a habit then. Some days, I have skipped, and I know I need to start over. Some days it’s not as good as others. I know that. Some days it’s very good and feels that way, too. When I can arrange words, thoughts, and feelings to leave me feeling good, I know I’ve used my ability well. It’s something God gives us, and we should use whatever the ability is.

This is another reason I’m excited to get back to THE Virtual Quilting Bee Facebook group. It will set me back on the creative path of quilting, which I’ve missed so much. Creativity comes from me in several different ways; and I still want to learn drawing and painting. With cutting back on our volunteering, the Babe and I will have time for home, each other, and other things we love. It’s a hard decision to make, but it’s time.

It’s amazing how things all lay out to mean more when you put them together. With what I’ve said so far, and yesterday, I see how these things fit so well into the teachings of the book, “The Four Agreements.” It is a Toltec Wisdom Book, written by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book was written in 1997. It amazes me I haven’t come across it before. I know why, though. It is at this moment in my life that the concepts in this book will make sense to me. Things happen the way they do for a reason. I believe in this.

That’s why I felt so impacted by the First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word.

Now, that doesn’t so hard, does it?

Ruiz tells us about the power of the word. We speak and we can either empower growth and progress or we can destroy and devastate. It’s our choice. Did you think you have that much power? I sure didn’t think I did.

When we are honest, have integrity, and speak our truth we honor not only others but ourselves. Impeccability means “without sin.” While no human is perfect, what we need to try and do is not use our words to diminish another. Telling a child they’re fat, stupid, ugly, or no good will make them believe they are indeed fat, stupid, ugly, and no good. The adult was not impeccable with their word.

Conversely, another person may tell the child they’re just right, smart, handsome, and wonderful. How differently that child will carry on!

At our 50th Class Reunion this summer, I was a little surprised at how nice all the girls were. As a nervous teenager, I didn’t think anyone liked me. No boys asked me out at all. My first husband already graduated by the time we dated. The words to me were fat, incapable, not very smart, and one who wouldn’t listen to my mother. All that comes back sometimes. Dad was all for letting us figure things out. Mom said, “No use going to college, you’ll never finish. I’m sure you’ll get married before you could graduate.” End of discussion.

My words were wrong. The girls really did like me, they sure welcomed me that night last summer. How different things could have been! The whole idea of sin is what religions thrive on. A sin is anything against ourselves. Being impeccable acknowledges when we do wrong, and we take responsible for what we’ve done. Blaming and judging is absent. Nothing good comes from that.

Many of us have learned to lie to ourselves, whether it’s conscious or unconscious. When we are honest with ourselves, we are impeccable, we experience growth and good. When we are not, we experience death and evil. It may sound harsh, but if we use our word to spread ill will, we are living in hell. If we are impeccable with our word, using our word to spread love, hope, faith, and light, we are living in the most heavenly place there can be on earth. Wouldn’t that be spectacular?

The continuation of lies, inaccurate descriptions of us, and living in hell is avoidable. Only use kind words on yourself and others. Create harmony instead of strife. Create love instead of hate. Live in heaven. Love in heaven. Love yourself. Love others.

The worst use of the word is gossip. Nothing destroys good relationships, good working environments, and good organizations faster than gossip. From gossip comes rumors, from rumors come negativity, from negativity comes destruction. The truth shall set us all free.

Think of your word today. Keep it impeccable. Keep it civil, and heavenly. Make our world a better place. Make your mind a safer place. Be careful out there, it’s terribly hot and humid. And we’ll see each other tomorrow.

Blessings and More

I’m sitting in our comfortable living room on a morning where the winds will be over 75 mph along with the temperatures being 75. I can only pray the roof on the house holds together, we’re safe driving to get Addison from school (some cancelled school for the day), and safe until we return home later from dinner at the VFW Post. The kids have final exams this week and get out of school early.

Oh, I remember waiting for Christmas Break during school. It was a most opportune time to get the school uniform skirt dry cleaned. Yes, they were wool, box pleated skirts. By the time Christmas came, there were no pleats left in the back of the skirt. Seriously. They were all sat out of the fabric. A day at the cleaners, and those pleats were sharp as knives again. It took so little to make me happy. Still does.

Today is for decorating. Being at Mom’s yesterday made me realize how much I truly love the decorations of Christmas. I have procrastinated, getting other commitments out of the way. Now is the time. I’m collecting things to bake some goodies, too. But not too many. It’s back to eating healthy for an extended period of time again. I decided to simply enjoy the season this year. Enjoying means the food, too. I believe it was made to enjoy, not overindulge. I believe by allowing yourself now and again, you’ll be more successful in the long run. And I’ll be starting squats again. Maybe today. No pressure.

Our House. Yours?

With moving boxes upstairs and downstairs, I didn’t realize I hadn’t finished this. Wow. I hope you are in a safe place with the storms moving through the midwest. Tornadoes in some places in Nebraska, moving towards northeast. Stay safe, friends, we’ll see each other tomorrow.

Looking for Answers in New Places

Sometimes, old answers aren’t the right ones. If you do something a certain way because you’ve always done it that way before, don’t be surprised when the results are the same. We need to be brave and look for new ways to do things. Yes, it can be very uncomfortable, can’t it?

Finding different solutions to old problems and having positive results is life changing. We may feel some guilt because we abandoned the way of our parents and others, and they may criticize us for not remembering where we came from. We are at the point where we remember perfectly well where we came from. We are choosing to look for a solution, a new way of doing things. We want things to work where we have seen them fail before. When we’re successful, it makes people who settle for the old ways are upset. Gosh, you may make them look at themselves and evaluate their life and things that are not working.

It can be isolating to be the one who tries a new way of thinking, living, and solving problems. It can also be freeing, discovering your own way. Your own answers. Your own truth. It can lead you to a whole new life, new friends, and a positive outlook that sets you on a path of discovery, creativity, and a fulfilling life. Living a Great Story should be the goal of all of us.

We owe it to ourselves to be our best version of ourselves. We do that with personal growth, experiencing life on our own terms, and contributing to our surrounding communities. Getting out of our own head helps us to overcome our difficulties, heal our heartaches, and be good citizens of our earth. Thinking before reacting is new territory for us. It takes practice, over and over again. The ineffective habits we had before leave us the more we do new things, in new ways. It’s very satisfying. Try it, you’ll like it!

Sorry to be so short today, just kind of distracted. Hope you have a beautiful day and see you tomorrow.