What? Isn’t it one and done? Why does it take more than one thought to forgive?
Because it does.
Willing to forgive is not the same as wanting to forgive. You can be willing but not wanting. The past hurt we’ve endured is often far deeper than forgiveness being a one and done thing. Forgiveness may take several steps, stages, if you will.
We may make a start at forgiving. One forgiving thought a day. Resisting wishing evil or ill on a person for what they did to us is a start. It really is. We can work out one forgiving action a day, however we define it. At the point where we realize not forgiving is hurting us more than it hurts them, we can forgive for real. As long as we learn to pray for those we are trying to forgive, we finally realize we’re able to forgive after all. We’re good. Isn’t that a great feeling?
It wasn’t sudden at all. We’re amazed that the unattainable was accomplished. But not surprised. It was really calculated, measured, and incremental. After all.
Sometimes the things we leave undone are as bad as not doing something we were supposed to do. Isn’t this the same thing? No, not at all. If we need to apologize for wrongdoing, we need to do it. That is a thing left undone. That’s different than not taking our Great Aunt Matilda to Mass on Sunday.
Rather than thinking everyone owes us an apology, we need to know how to make apologies. It’s part of being responsible. Not everyone needs to apologize to us. We need to extend that courtesy around to those we have hurt first before collecting our apologies.
Have a beautiful evening. And make sure to make the most of your day tomorrow. You only get one chance at it, so make it a good one. See you tomorrow!